9 out of 10

Saw this article: http://jobs.aol.com/articles/2012/08/14/ten-habits-of-bad-bosses/

Not surprisingly, my job's score is 9 out of 10.
This is typically how companies here run, based from my own and friends' experiences.

Here's the article:

By Kelly Eggers


It's one thing to have a bad boss. It's an entirely different story when your bad boss is one of many at your firm. That could indicate a deeper problem suggesting your company's management culture needs an overhaul.

Companies with poor management practices typically have employees who are disengaged and want to quit the firm, says Allan Steinmetz, chief executive and founder of Boston-based Inward Strategic Consulting. A recent survey from Harvard Business School says 95% of high achievers regularly update their resumes and check out other employers in part because they're unhappy with their current company's career development programs. According to a 2010 survey from Manpower Group, 21% of more than 14,000 workers globally said they were unclear of their company's strategy and/or how their individual role contributes to that strategy. While a disengaged workforce is a symptom of substandard leadership, just what constitutes bad management? Here are a few problematic practices experts believe should be axed:


1. Bad Communication

Few things cause employees to tune out faster than a top management team that keeps the company's future direction to itself. Such practices cause the rumor mill to work overtime, particularly during times of change or economic stress.

Burton Goldfield of California-based TriNet, an HR outsourcing firm, experienced this firsthand when he visited a firm TriNet was acquiring. In order to meet with the entire staff, he set up two separate group meetings in a small conference room. "The rumor was that half the company was going to be fired depending on the session they were in," he says.

Scheduling difficulties caused some people to be moved back and forth from one session to the other, which they thought meant they were being moved from the "hired" to the "fired" pile. "It is amazing how quickly rumors start based on some distorted kernel of the truth," he says.

According to a 2009 survey of 328 employers by Towers Watson, only 58% educate their people about the firm's values and culture. Just 26% of companies surveyed planned to tell employees how the company was faring through the economic downturn.

Goldfield ultimately fixed his communication problems with a weekly, three-minute podcast. He interviews new hires, talks about new offices or a product the company is launching or what competitors are doing. He even interviewed his wife on their 30th wedding anniversary. "Almost the entire company listened to that one," he says.


2. Leading by (Very Specific) Example

Micromanaging is a mistake many new managers make and there's no better way to alienate your workforce. Employees told there's only one way to do things -- yours -- will stop thinking creatively about how to solve problems.

"There are a lot of highly competent people who have been promoted because they have done things well, and when they become a manager they think they have to show others the way to do things," says Mike Noble, managing partner with Massachusetts-based Camden Consulting Group, an HR consulting firm. "They think, 'My way is the only way, and everyone else can follow my lead. If they are not doing it my way, they are probably doing it wrong.'"

Having one approved method to get things done sets subordinates up for a fall and, ultimately, the firm. "Everyone will defer to you as the expert or the final arbiter on things, and will stop developing new skills because they just expect you to provide the answers," Noble says. "This might close the door on better ways of doing things," he says, which could come about with the advent of new technologies or people with a different set of competencies.

3. Team-Building that Isn't

Fostering a connected team is an important practice, but before implementing group runs at lunchtime or post-work happy hours, be sure members of your team won't feel left out. Those with a physical ailment or are, say, a recovering alcoholic, won't feel comfortable running races or swapping stories at a bar.

"Saying, 'We are a great team-building company,' when everyone goes out to run on the West Side Highway -- that's not in any way in my mind a team-building company," says Goldfield of TriNet. "Running may be the passion of the CEO, director or manager, but some people will follow begrudgingly or try to keep up, when that's not the intent of the team-building."

Getting to know your team members is generally an effective way to build collaboration and a sense of joint purpose. Social gatherings have become a linchpin for career success. Some 63% of employees surveyed by Robert Half International earlier this year said that productivity increases when employees have social relationships with their professional colleagues.


4. Little or No Training

According to a 2011 report from Accenture, 55% of workers in the U.S. say they are under pressure to develop new skills, but only 21% say their companies have provided training to learn those new skills within the last five years.

"A lot of organizations aren't doing the hard work to train their employees and expect them to come into the workforce with skills," Cantrell says. "Most workers don't know what skills are required in different jobs. If you don't know what they are, how do you go get them?"

Programs that cost companies money, such as training, mentoring and coaching, are valued highly by employees, according to HBS. When employees don't have access to development, they often leave. Companies with poor management practices see this as an impossible conundrum. If they invest, they fear employees will leave for better jobs elsewhere, but employees will quit if they don't feel invested in.

5. Ineffective Training

Just as lousy as no training is training that doesn't work. Typically, these are programs that provide the exact same training for every employee, no matter their existing skills.

"There's an assumption that everyone needs training and that everyone is starting from the same level of competence, but that very rarely is the case," says Noble. "Companies want to provide training for everyone so employees feel included, which is an honorable motive, but it can sometimes backfire."

It backfires, for instance, when companies put social-media savvy employees into the same Facebook training session as people who don't yet have a profile on the site. The pace and level of training for class-goers should vary based on the skill-sets of the people receiving it, and creating one-size-fits-all training programs implies that the firm doesn't have a grip on individual employee competencies.


6. Poorly Executed Performance Reviews

"One of the things I've heard most frequently is that people's HR or people practices were irrelevant to them," says Cantrell. People's schedules, rewards and performance assessments are often the same for people working in the same job, at the same level or for the same amount of time, Cantrell notes, "but people do very different work than one another," even if their titles are the same.

Cantrell says that assessing people once a year on generic criteria -- the traditional philosophy -- is outdated. A 2010 study of HR executives from Sibson Consulting and World at Work found that 58% grade their performance-review practices at a "C" or below, primarily because managers don't provide constructive feedback, and employees don't feel motivated by the results.

Some companies also misuse 360-degree feedback, a tool used by HR departments to get perspective on an individual employee from colleagues at, below and above the level of the specific worker. "We highly encourage 360-degree feedback, but say it should be used for development not for performance appraisals," says Noble.

As an evaluation tactic, 360s fail because the reviewers aren't always objective. "An employee giving feedback on their boss might think, 'Deep down I know that she has flaws, but if I tell her boss, they may come down on her and I don't want people to come down on her that way,'" Noble says. That problem can be averted if the employee knows that their comments won't impact their boss' standing in the organization, and vice versa.

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7. Stifled Mobility

Many companies just don't know what their workers are good at or how to develop them once they're hired. That makes it difficult to challenge employees to learn new skills that would enable them to develop their careers.

"Once people become employees, they report that it becomes hard for them to move around to different jobs in their organization," Cantrell says. Accenture's survey found that only 34% of employees believe that they can move into another job at their company. Only half believe that their employer gives them a clear understanding of the skills they need to grow in a particular job or career path.

Having an understanding of the skills and abilities of current employees can reduce the costs of recruiting externally for talent. To encourage employees to find new jobs internally, "employers can make job needs more transparent, and begin to develop more flexibility in their HR processes," Cantrell says.


8. Preventing Follow-Through

Most employees like to feel their work has meaning. If they don't get this kind of satisfaction, they lose motivation, according to a number of research studies. One sure way to demean an employee's work is to move them off a project before it's completed.

That's what one of Cantrell's clients did. Its work strategy moved people on and off projects before they were completed, which didn't allow them to see the results of their work. "It completely de-motivated them," Cantrell says.

"From the employee's perspective, they want to feel like they have an impact," says Rick DeMarco, West Coast managing director for Inward Strategic Consulting. "If you pull them away before they see the result of their labors, they'll wonder what all that was for."

This practice also develops a workforce with a serious problem with follow-through. "A weakness in leadership today is that companies develop great strategists who can't execute a plan," DeMarco says. "Companies aren't teaching people to see something through from beginning to end, which builds a mentality of not finishing what's been started."

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9. Obstacle-Course Applications

Having a thorough application process is critical to maintaining a level of sanity when an employer is looking to hire, but being too specific can hinder the entire process. Much has been said about how too-specific keyword searches among applicant pools is contributing to the so-called the skills gap, but the problem could begin before applications are submitted.

According to a July 2012 survey from Beyond.com, a job-search website, more than a quarter of 1,700 respondents said their biggest frustration with job seeking is finding job descriptions that are too vague, too specific, too confusing or incomplete. Unclear job descriptions could leave employers with fewer applicants because too many job seekers weren't sure if they actually met the position's requirements because the desired skills weren't clear to begin with.


10. Hiring For Skills, Not Competencies

A frequent complaint of job seekers is that resume-scanning software eliminates them from consideration for positions because they don't have the "right" degree or previous job titles. Accenture found that 38% of workers believe their employers don't consider talents and competencies when hiring. They only consider specific work experience and education, leaving many candidates who might have the capacity to quickly learn a job in the pool of the unemployed.

"Hiring managers try to find people by basically screening a resume for its experience and education," says Cantrell of Accenture. "Academic studies have shown over time that they aren't predictors of performance, but we continue to do it." Searching for competencies such as accounting, design, entrepreneurial mind-sets or computer science can be more of a predictor of someone's behavior at work.

"If you think about it, just because you have a degree in computer science doesn't mean you're a great computer scientist or that you were any good at it," she says. On the other hand, evaluating people based on the competencies that make up a good computer scientist presents a greater guarantee that you'll find someone good at the job, Cantrell says.

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English is Not My First Language

So my Chinese-Indonesian (yes, the race needs to be mentioned) boss is telling me, for the second time around, that I need to improve on my “English Composition.”  He was talking about the first page of a 60-page report that I made from scratch. Yes, from scratch.

The same person who, while interviewing me as an applicant, said I had the best communication skills compared to the rest of the guys in the office. This is the same person that adds an ‘s’ to a singular form noun and the same person who omits an ‘s’ to a present-tense verb. The same person who begins his sentences with “I thinks that…” or “It doesn't seems to be..."

“I know English is not our first language” he says.

Improve on my English composition, he says. To me, who went on business writing training and the only comment the instructor had was that I had awesome handwriting. To me.

"The composition is very elementary'' he says. He was talking about an Executive Summary for a report to be submitted to the military. Very elementary? You mean, short, concise and direct to the point? Just how a summary should be?

The last time he said this not-our-first-language comment, I asked a white American (yes, the race needs to be mentioned) colleague to mark-up my narrative. He did some very minor comments and voila! No more comments from the boss.

So this time, I already knew what to tell him. That I will ask another ‘English-speaking’ colleague to help me revise (which, mind you, has already reviewed my report TWICE!)

If only this was a sit-com then I would have been able to say ‘GO WRITE IT YOURSELF! I QUIT!’ If only, then I would be laughing right now.

Note that I am not claiming perfection; but having different approaches, like in composition does not mean the other one sucks. I am sure I am just pissed right now, I usually don't take criticism easily. Maybe in a few more minutes I will be laughing at the irony of this all.

'Boss, enrolls us to english training so me writes better englishes.'  Now, I am beginning to sound like Smeagol. Haha! Okay, enough ranting, back to work!

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As a side story, this is typical of our boss who, when stressed about SOMETHING ELSE, lashes out on the rest of his employees as if they have done nothing right. At least make them feel that way.

So, typically:
Good mood boss = good job employee.
Bad mood boss = bad job employee.

Thank You

Thank You. Two words, two syllables. Easy.

I might have mentioned this before, but again, I have met and worked with a lot of different races in the world (Chinese, Indian, Singaporean, Spanish, American, etc.) and my co-Filipinos are always the odd ones and the hardest to deal with.

I have noticed that a lot of the Filipinos have a hard time saying THANK YOU. When someone does a good deed or gesture, maybe we feel a bit uncomfortable or maybe it is just a culture-thing that instead of just saying THANK YOU, we opt to say something witty and joke about the person who made the gesture. Maybe we are trying to be funny but end up just bringing embarrassment to that other person.

This morning, I brought coffee for all the coffee drinkers here at work. I thought of bringing coffee so they could at least understand why I don't drink coffee made here in the office (our house coffee is brewed by Keurig using the K-cups which is properly measured and we use hazelnut creamer... I think I love our coffee at home mainly because of the hazelnut creamer).

I thought that would be a nice gesture, to share something I love, maybe they would love it too. So I did bring two travel mug full of good coffee (which mind you, I drove extra carefully and slowly to work just so it won't spill).

I did get a good reaction from one of them, he said his thanks and was very excited after smelling that it was hazelnut coffee. As for the others... typical Filipino guys, I got nothing but joke-full ridicules like:

"why didn't you bring coffee yesterday?"
"why can't you bring coffee everyday?"
"next time you bring coffee, it should be very hot." <--- In my mind I said "Sorry... but I kind of carefully and slowly drove from home so it is not boiling hot when I served them to you." Yes, my dear readers, I even delivered the cup of coffee to their desks!

I just went back to my workstation and literally ignored everybody. I know they have just been teasing but they really had the worst timing. I just sat on my chair, stared at my monitor and concentrated on the news I am reading. I can still hear them and see them on my peripheral vision, but I ignored everything outside my monitor just to recompose myself.

Several months ago, I brought banana muffins (that I baked myself) to work, like a couple of times. Of course, instead of getting Thank You's, I got some jokes, ridicules and whatever nonsense they can say just to put me in the lime light of embarrassing attention.

I remember back in my early college years, a good girl friend of mine said "Kayan, you have nice feet." I felt awkward and said "No, I don't. It's too little. It's too bony, blah blah blah." Then my friend said "Kayan, you don't know how to take a compliment? You have to learn to receive them."

From then on, every time I receive a compliment or a nice gesture, I go back to that story and try my best to say THANK YOU first before blabbering something else.

I, THANK YOU.

Buntong Hininga

Isang malalim, mahaba, at makapagbagbag-damdaming

HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYY...

Hindi Nakakatuwa

Since last week, the guys (guys = husband and husband's guy friends) have been planning for a poker night at our house. It's all set. All the husbands will stay at our house and all the wives and kids will stay at the other friend's house, just within the same village.

Everyone's supposed to meet at 6:30 PM.

Come 5:00 PM, I got a message from my husband saying that the our girl friend, aka Wife #2, the owner of the house where the wives are supposed to stay, made other plans already and will not be home tonight. No house for the wives.

Damn.

May tawag dun eh... ahh, hmm... INDYAN! Hmmmp! Or amnesia?

We girls already planned this before, we will just do a chick flicks marathon. So me and wife # 3 are stuck now, she couldn't get a baby sitter in such a short notice. I just told wife #3 that it's okay, she'll just stay home with her kids and I'll find something to do myself.

I did went out, window shopped. Until my husband called me to pick up some cups for them. Therefore, I had to go back home. Too late to go out tonight as I don't have anything else to do outside.

It's not like Manila here, no Starbucks where you're safe to just chill on your own, bring your laptop and all that. Malls close up pretty early too, PLUS there's nothing interesting in the malls. Just earlier I was walking alone on the sidewalk by the mall and a man was following me whispering stuff like "hi, have a good night." Creepy!

I have just locked myself in the bed room. I am pretending not to be here as all the guys downstairs are enjoying their poker night.

Times like these, I miss the Manila malls, I miss my kaladkarin friends.

I miss my real friends.

Okay, just wanted to get this out of my system. I'm gonna go back to bed now and watch When in Rome and Whip It, with junk food, pizza and soda on the side. Sayang hindi pa malamig ung Red Horse beer.


P.S.
So... this is how it feels like to be grounded. :P

P.P.S.

Earlier today, I was in such a good mood that Friday is done and the weekend is here. I just left my work desk and was heading to my car when someone from behind called me...

Tactless Co-worker: Kayan!!!
Kayan: Yep?
Tactless Co-worker: Tinutubuan ka na ng bilbil o. Ang laki diyan sa may bandang tagiliran.
Kayan: Ah ganon ba, eh baka kasi ang higpit ng belt ko naiipit?
Tactless Co-worker: Sus! Nagjustify ka pa ah.
Kayan: Ganon talaga, lahat ng bagay may explanation.

Bwiset! Ganda na sana ng week-ender ko eh. Pwet ka!

May the Force be With Me

Something is off with the universe lately, well, MY universe.

I showed my car registration last Saturday, for oil change, and for some magical cosmic reason, I can’t find that piece of paper now. I remember, not vaguely, but clearly remember myself putting it inside my car’s glove compartment. I remember doing it with a thought in my mind “mailagay na nga dito, baka mawala ko pa ito.” Now, IT ISN’T THERE! Can’t find it anywhere.

I remember packing our new digicam’s charger cord on my way to my vacation last week. The camera power is now empty, and I can’t find the damn cord! It wasn’t in any of my packs. Can’t find it at home either.

I went out to buy some groceries yesterday, my first day back from vacation. I made a u-turn on red signal (I remember my co-workers telling me it’s okay to do that in that intersection, yeah and I believed them! Tange!). The police car pulled me over a quarter mile from my house. She asked for my driver’s license and car registration. Uhm… dehmet! My registration wasn’t there, remember? The police woman then asked for my proof of insurance instead, and she finds out my copy was expired too! Dehmit!!! I told her I live just around the corner, and that it was my first day back in the island, and that I would need to ask my husband, blah blah blah. She said I need to fix this asap or the next time they will just confiscate my plates. Dehmit!

On my way to work, I couldn’t find car keys! I called my husband, it wasn’t with him. I remember just using it this morning, since I searched all the corners of my car interior first thing after waking up, looking for that damn car registration. I remember throwing a lot of papers in the trash. I went ahead and checked the trash can, maybe I threw the car keys there altogether with the papers. I found my keys finally, where? IN MY CAR THAT I LEFT OPEN! Dehmit!

I am losing trust in myself.

Now I am at work, I am thinking, the trash will be picked up today and what if I threw some important documents there? I am thinking, what if I left the house door open? Did I leave the aircon running? Or did I turn off the oven after I used it? PARANOIA.

Dehmit, universe, please be my friend.

Is this bad karma? But what did I do to deserve it? I thought I was being good. Hmmm.

Dehmit.

Nak-nak-nakaw ang Wallet Ko

I just got in the office 7:30 AM Tuesday, I realized my bag was too light, to find out that my WALLET IS MISSING! Yeah, that’s how much coins I have that the weight difference would be noticeable. Haha. I remained calm as I was so confident I just left it at home so decided to drop by the house during lunchbreak to go get it. Then it wasn’t there. Not in my car, not in my husband’s car. Nowhere.

I have never lost my wallet before. I did almost lose one last November 28, 2008. I remember it very clearly as it was a very memorable day.

I left work around 6:00 PM to meet up with my then special friend (now my husband) for a pre-birthday date. He planned a surprise dinner for me and my friends. We were already 20 minutes away from my office when I realized I left my wallet in my desk. I called my coworkers and had them check it but all of them said it wasn’t in my workstation at all. We drove back to my office, got to the 16th floor, checked my locker, it wasn’t there too! I was on the verge of crying by then.

Then out of nowhere, my co-worker stood up and gave me my wallet!!! He was playing a joke at me; he took my wallet from my desk, and then got carried away with whatever he was surfing or playing in the internet that he didn’t notice I already left. He was really very guilty and sorry. I was so relieved yet very angry at him, and in times like these, I got nothing to say or do but cry so the tears started to well up and I just walked out.

That’s how my 2008 birthday celebration started - very memorable indeed.

Now I am half-hoping that one of my co-workers was just playing a joke at me again. It’s been 3 days already. I guess it’s real. Time to move on.

In one day I was able to get a replacement for my driver’s license, order a replacement ATM card, and order a replacement healthcare ID too. I have 3 more IDs yet to be replaced. Whew! If only the money could be replaced too, I could use some extra money. Hehehe.

Deep inside, I am still in denial my wallet is missing, and that I lost that much money just like that. I can’t even blame anyone, not even myself.

Oh well, I won’t be using a wallet anytime soon.

Why I Dread a Trip to the Nail Salon

As per my facebook status: A trip to the pedicurist is scarier than a trip to the dentist. Most of the time it is even more painful.

1. The last time I had a pedicure, I had them put a clear polish which then caused my nails to weaken, then crack, and so part of my toe nail was chipped. I tried to groom it and ended up wounding myself. Hehe. So I said, I better go to the professionals the next time.

2. This is probably the 5th time I am having a pedicure… in my entire life. I have never been that type of person. I have never enjoyed manicures or pedicures, most of the time they end up hurting my tips and toes. I have tiny fingers, thus tiny nails. There won’t be much room for them to work on. I don’t think I get the worth of my money. Haha.

3. In Guam, the first time I went to the nail salon was when a friend asked me to accompany her. We both asked for the same pedicure package, but I did not get the same treatment. The only reason I can think of is because I am Asian. My friend is white. The staffs were Vietnamese. They were more accommodating and friendlier to the American-looking people. They entertain them, talk to them, smile at them. Me? I just get the pedicure. No talking. There was even one point they had me move to another chair (yes, in the middle of all the pedicure session), just so they can give a corner seat to another white woman.

4. That same trip to the nail salon, I was already standing up, holding my purse, waiting and watching for my friend’s toes to get done. She asked for the flowery details on her toes. Nice. Then another white manang approached me, handing me the nail polish she picked. She thought I was one of the staff. Why? The only reason I could think of was because I was Asian. I told her, “Sorry, I don’t work here.” She said “Oh, so what are you doing here?” I said “Waiting for my friend?” Being a passive person that I am, I was mad, but didn’t do anything. Damn you manang!!! I’ll remember that stupid face of yours wherever.

5. I don’t grow my nails long, there’s too much in life you have to give up when you have long nails (e.g. gardening, scratching your skin and eyes, eating with your hands, etc).

6. My feet are extremely ticklish. Once they start doing the scrubbing, the massaging, I immediately laugh or smile. I try to think of sad things and horror movies, just so I could stop laughing. I tear up, in most cases. It’s torture. Hahaha!

7. This last weekend, I went to the nail salon because of pure necessity. I was afraid of wounding my toes again, trying to clean up some left over ingrown. I let a professional do it, and what happens? She was able to take out the ingrown alright, but with blood. Yes I saw blood. I had at least 3 OUCH moments there. Why do they say pedicures are relaxing? Why do most women do this to themselves regularly?

8. Item 3’s nail salon is different from Item 7’s. Apparently though, both have Vietnamese-full staff. Why do I know? Because they talk it. They talk loudly with each other, all across the room, the whole time. Again, they were more friendly with the white people, of course. I didn’t get the same service, of course. My seat’s back massager was broken, they don’t care. While someone was working on my pedicure, another woman was working on my manicure. She was standing on my right side the whole time. Instead of walking on my other side, she asks me to stretch out my left hand to the right. So she can work on it. In short: YUNG KAMAY MO ANG LALAPIT SA KANYA. Bwisit. Of course, they weren’t like that with the white woman.

9. It was the first time I tried a non-neutral colored toe nail polish; it was a dark old rose hue. When they put it on my toes, it looked more like fuchsia. So tacky. Fuchsia naman oh! I don’t even know how to pick a nice color.

10. I am perfectly happy with clean pinkish tips and toes. That’s it. Simple, clean, BEAUTIFUL!

I'LL DO IT MYSELF.

It's a Chauvinistic World

c/o wikipedia

Chauvinism, (pronounced /ˈʃoʊvɨnɪzəm/), in its original and primary meaning, is an exaggerated, bellicose patriotism and a blind belief in national superiority and glory.

By extension it has come to include an extreme and unreasoning partisanship on behalf of any group to which one belongs, especially when the partisanship includes malice and hatred towards a rival group. Jingoism is the British parallel form of this French word.
A contemporary use of the term in English is in the phrase male chauvinism.

Because "chauvinism" is most often heard in this context, it is often mistakenly believed to refer exclusively to "male chauvinism" such as anti-feminism and sexism.

Chauvinism as nationalism

Chauvinism is an almost natural product of the national concept insofar as it springs directly from the old idea of the "national mission." ... (A) nation's mission might be interpreted precisely as bringing its light to other, less fortunate peoples that, for whatever reason, have miraculously been left by history without a national mission. As long as this concept did not develop into the ideology of chauvinism and remained in the rather vague realm of national or even nationalistic pride, it frequently resulted in a high sense of responsibility for the welfare of backward peoples.

Chauvinism as sexism
Male chauvinism is a term used to describe the belief that men are superior to women. The term was widely used by the feminist movement in the 1960s to describe men who believe or display an attitude that women are inferior to men, speak to women as inferiors, or treat women negatively based solely upon their gender. Female chauvinism is a less commonly used term used to describe the symmetrical attitude that women are superior to men.

The term female chauvinism has been adopted by critics of some types or aspects of feminism; leading second-wave feminist Betty Friedan being a notable example.These critics argue, for example, that in some gender feminist views, all men are considered irreconcilable rapists, wife-beating brutes, and useless as partners to women or as fathers to children.

Mas-gusto Ko Pa ang TSISMOSA

Oh, you gossipers, why don’t you just spend your time more sensibly? Besides, there’s always Lady Gaga or Kris Aquino to talk about. Why me?

Just because I have a headache doesn’t mean I am pregnant. It’s normal to have a headache. Haller?

Just because I said I wanted to snack doesn’t mean I am pregnant. It’s normal for human beings to be hungry.

Just because my weight is fluctuating, doesn’t mean I am pregnant. It’s normal to change your lifestyle every now and then. It’s even more normal for your dryer to shrink your clothes!

I’ve been married 1 and a half years; my church wedding was just 2 months ago.

I AM NOT PREGNANT. That doesn’t mean my husband has a problem, nor do I. Deennnng!

Oh, you old schoolers… please evolve.
Don't treat your brain as an artifact.